Loyal, deep friendships are hard to find.

But especially in the new mom season.

Simple conversations are a struggle as you meet the needs of a baby (maybe a baby and a toddler) and suffer from sleep-deprived-brain-mush. Then you throw in the insecurities of this new role. . .and you want to give up all together.

Awhile back, Libby (young mom to two under the age of two) emailed me. She vulnerably shared her friendship struggles. Then she boldly accepted my invitation to come on the podcast.

In this episode she shares her frustration with being the “inviter” and longing to be invited. She also asks for truth to help fight insecurities and negative self-talk. We also discuss the topic of how to develop meaningful friendships when you are caring for lots of little ones. Lastly we focus on practical ways to show hospitality to our neighbors. . . without worrying about what they think of us.

I also invited my four-boy-mom mentor, Leslie Johnson (SurseeGal) on the show. This is Leslie’s 3rd time as a guest (listen to her here and here).

Leslie has an amazing way of welcoming others into her life and home. In fact, it was a simple invite to her MomHeart group that began our friendship.

Since I’ve admired how Leslie fosters and develops friendships, she seemed the perfect mentor to answer Libby’s questions.

Like the last “That’s Me . . .” episode, the two interviews are spliced and edited together so that you hear Libby’s question then Leslie’s answer.

Praying Leslie’s wisdom will inspire you to be brave, “cast your net” (as she says) and grow friendships in 2016.  I pray God will speak His Truth over you, whispering how valuable you are and how He longs for you to be in community with others.

Connect with Leslie Johnson:

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What we chat about:

Libby’s Questions: 

  • What if you always reach out to others, but you need someone to invite you?
  • What Scripture or help do you have when social insecurities creep up?
  • Being a mom with two under two, how can I develop meaningful relationships?
  • What is the best way to reach out to neighbors? How do I turn off the negative self-talk after taking the risk?

Leslie’s Answers: 

  • Be honest with God. Cry out about your need and your desires.
  • God can give you life-giving friendships. Have faith in that.
  • We all need to spend time with the Lord (be creative in how)–God’s Word will tell you who you are.
  • A great idea for keeping Scripture ready for when you need to hear Truth.
  • Have your spouse or mentor remind you of truth.
  • Invite people into what you’re already doing.
  • The fabulous idea of hosting a regular creative night.
  • In connecting with neighbors, look for opportunities and be available.
  • Easy ideas for gathering neighbors together and inspiration to be brave.

Other topics we cover: 

  • God’s desire for us to live connected to Him and to others.
  • How Jesus modeled life around the table and living with others.
  • True friendship is built on regular communication  (“popping in to someone’s life”).
  • “Cast your net out” to see what new friendships God brings you.
  • Balancing out your time between life-giving and life-taking friends.
  • Find a mentor who will encourage and direct you and give life to you.
  • Seeking God and asking Him to tell you who you are, where your worth comes from.

Links Mentioned:

  • “Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.” Romans 12:13
  • “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
  • StrengthsFinders
  • “No Other God” study by Kelly Mitner
  • Scripture for battling negative self-talk:
    • Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

How to listen to the podcast:

1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post.

2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store, there is also one called Downcast. It allows you to search for shows, subscribe to them and even speed up the audio. If you don’t have an iDevice, you can listen via Stitcher.

3. Subscribe to the Podcast – access the podcast in iTunes (Click here to access via iTunes). You can also search for it on your smartphone app (like the ones listed above) and subscribe.