Pastor and author Paul David Tripp talks about the potential transformation available when we apply the gospel to our parenting. It is powerful. It is moving. I need to listen to this episode on repeat.
If your eyes ever see or your ears ever hear the sin, weakness and failure of your children, it’s never an interruption, it’s never a hassle, it’s always grace. God loves that child, he’s put them in a family of faith and he will expose the need of that child to you so you can be a tool of his rescue and transformation. That’s parenting.
Jump into this conversation and check out the great live streaming event he has coming up on Sept. 29-30 (details below).
What we chat about:
- How the gospel is often missing from what parents think their role is in the lives of their children
- Grace vs. the law in parenting and how the law always falls short
- No parent has any ability to change their children. We are a tool in the hands of the one who can change my children
- Jesus bears the burden of the spiritual welfare of our children.
- Controlling the behavior of your children does not create a heart change that is sustainable
- Answers to your questions from Facebook and Instagram
- Asking good heart-revealing questions:
- What’s going on? Just get a telling of the situation.
- What were you thinking and feeling as it was happening?
- What did you do in response?
- Why did you do it?
- What was the result?
- Grace is about asking the question, “What right now is God seeking to do in the heart of the child?”
- We have to stop making parenting all about us. It makes our responses angry and adversarial.
- The way we exercise authority is so important because we want to soften their hearts toward the authority of God
- Looking at each moment as a part of the long process view of parenting and how each conversation can bring our children closer to the process of transformation
- What system of values determines the schedule of your family?
- Parenting was ordained by God to be an ongoing conversation with your children
- Discipline of correction vs. discipline of consequences and why both are necessary
- Rebellion is really a rebellion against God. It’s God’s authority our children rebel against.
- We need to be rescued from ourselves. We can pray everyday for the help we need.
- Parenting is a massive spiritual warfare.
- When our kids make us angry– leave the room and pray before your respond
- Rather than responding in the wrong way that will push them away from God, choose the situations you need to respond to them wisely
Connect with Paul:
- Grace Liberates Your Parenting video (from 3 years ago)
- New Morning Mercies** (Daily Devotional by Paul David Tripp)
- Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles that Can Radically Change Your Family **
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Don’t miss the opportunity to watch best-selling and award-winning author Paul David Tripp teach on Parenting: Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family.
This event is streaming live on September 29-30 and available for unlimited, on-demand replay until October 31. Streaming licenses are available for purchase for individuals, small groups, and entire churches. With your license, you can:
– Stream the event as it happens from any device on Friday, September 29 (from 7pm – 10pm EDT) and Saturday, September 30 (from 9am – 12pm EDT)
– Restart the live video stream from the beginning when its convenient for you, your group, and your time zone
– Replay the four, 90-minute-long event sessions as many times as you want through October 31, 2017
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This is the podcast I have been looking for ever since I began listening to God Centered Mom! I feel like it was meant just for me. I listened to it while I was running this morning and just broke down crying. I think the most resounding quote for me that Paul David Tripp said was, “If I’m going to parent the way God has called for me to parent, I need to be rescued from me”. I struggle daily with finding grace for my children. It’s always a fight. I grew up with so much anger and all I want is to find God’s love in my heart for my children. This podcast has enlightened and encouraged me and I know it was just what God wanted me to hear. Thank you so much.
Hi Heather, I had a question for you regarding something you said in this podcast with Paul Tripp. I was felt like my feet were kicked out from underneath me when Paul Tripp said “You cannot pursue the American definition of a successful child and pursue the Gospel with your child at the same time.” Wow, that is so so true!!!! You then were talking about how life had gotten so busy for your family after your kids started sports and after school activities and homework that you felt like you had little time to connect with your kids so you made 5 small changes in your home that had huge impact on allowing time to connect more intentionally with your kids. I was curious if you would be willing to share what those 5 steps are? I tried to find your email address on your website but everytime I clicked to access your email address it brought me to a podcast page so I could not find your email. I’m hoping you will see this comment, but my family of 3 kids are in the “busy” school ages with our children and we say no to a lot of stuff like birthday parties and travel sports and after school activities, but we still are struggling to find the time for personal connection between homework, one sport per child and all the other crazy life things that come with having kids. Would you share your thoughts on what changes you implemented that impacted your family so profoundly?
Thanks so much. I love, love your podcasts so thank you for pursuing God’s calling on your life and sharing with fellow mamas!!!