The one-sided lunch date {an update on the boys & the book}

Jan 24, 2013

Wouldn’t it be fun if we planned to meet for a 3-hour lunch date? We could sip iced tea, eat some warm baked potato soup and share what God’s been doing in our lives.

Okay…maybe we will have to settle for a one-sided date. A monologue of sorts…me blabbing on and on about myself (and my boys).

Maybe you can email me or comment below your latest happenings so I don’t feel so guilty for the self-indulgence today. Deal?

The Boys: 

Quade is blowing us away with how much he can learn in a very short period of time. The other day I was trying to help him with a four digit subtraction problem (note: he couldn’t even do simple addition 5 months ago) and my head hurt with all the carrying of numbers.

He’s reading amazing literature. Books I’ve never heard of before but I’m loving. This week we’ve been listening to him read “Paddle-to-the-Sea” about a hand-crafted little wooden canoe a boy releases from Canada. You follow with the toy on its adventures until it reaches the sea (we are right in the middle of the story…so I can’t tell give away the ending).

My favorite Quade moments are listening to him describe his latest inventions. Like a growing stuffed animal and an everlasting cookie. The future looks bright my friends.

Price, my previously challenging child, is such a precious, precious spirit. (sidenote: If you have a challenging child right now can I encourage you to just hold on. I know that may not help in the moments you want to pull your hair out…but hold on. Pour on love and one day you will reap awesome.)

We picked him up from church last Sunday and his teacher went on and on about how genuinely sweet and nurturing his heart is. How he helped a new child in their class feel included. And for Bruce and I who love to meet new people and invite them into community, the praise for loving “the new kid” resonated with our souls.

Price is a people person. On the days its just Knox, him and I, Price will literally talk the entire time. I’m soaking him in. Over our lunch of hotdogs & Pringles he asked why I had “crying eyes”… I said, “It’s because I’m thankful to have this special time with you. Did you know with three other brothers these moments are rare? I’m so very thankful.”

Oh and this happened last Thursday (3 stitches above his eye). A word of advice: when you are riding a scooter in the house please keep a look out for the stair banister (there was already a goose egg on his forehead from when he was flying a kite and tripped over the scooter he didn’t see).

I’m going to write more about his injury next month over at the MOB Society…stay tuned!

Watts. Oh Watts. So cuddly soft and yet so stubbornly hard. So completely three and a half. When we went to pick him up from Sunday School the teacher said, “I don’t think he knows his name. Does he go by another name?” I burst out laughing!! I mean, even Knox (the 11 month old) responds to his name.

So, yes, sweet church volunteer, he does know his name. Unfortunately, he doesn’t really care what you have to say. Thank you for loving him well. Let’s just all pray he asks Jesus into his heart…soon. We need some Holy Spirit up in here.

40 minutes after putting him to bed he came downstairs and asked if we would buy him this pet someday.

40 minutes after putting him to bed he came downstairs and asked if we would buy him this pet someday. He liked it’s hair.

Knox is the boy I find myself stealing away to spend one-on-one time when the other boys are loud & wild. He is a bundle of sweet, smiley preciousness.


He’s learned the “trick” of raising his arms above his head, for “soooo big”.  He’s learned it gets a big response so he does it whenever there is an audience. The other day we were listening to Pandora and “Single Ladies” came on. We came up with our own version, “All my single babies, All my single babies, put your hands up!”. 😉

Another fun new trick. uh...not really.

Another fun new trick. uh…not really.

The Book:

Back in November I woke up early and wrote. I stole away on Saturday afternoons and wrote. Instead of watching late night T.V., I wrote. Soon I had three chapters. Then I asked several friends to read them and give feedback. On the whole these friends were very kind and encouraging, but I got a sense the chapters weren’t quite right yet. But I didn’t exactly know how to fix them. So I sent them on to my agent…despite their imperfections.

While I waited for his response I got nervous.

But God “said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

I decided even if he gets on the phone and tells me my chapters stink, it would be okay. I would boast all the more gladly. Because then it would be even more amazing if a book is ever written…it would have been God’s strength in me.

But you know what? We talked. And Bill liked them! He really did. Not that I need “man’s approval”, but this man has read lots of books and helped lots and lots of authors.

You know why he liked them? Because he saw God.

Yes, I have some pretty funny and self-deprecating stories in these chapters, but they all go back to God’s work in my heart. In removing myself from the throne and acknowledging God’s rightful place. 

Bill encouraged me to keep God center in my writing. Which is exactly the way I want it to be as well. All praise to God!!

Okay I’ve blabbed on long enough…tell me at least one exciting/new/challenging thing that’s been going on with you? I’m serious. 


  1. Ann

    Reading this really made me take a closer look at my kids as well. Having twins and that too two and a half yr old boys has given me challenges and many sweet moments. But to raise them God centred is my mission and I believe everything else will fall into place. You have been a real inspiration and I am trying to deal in love in every trying situation. I love talking about my kids and that actually reinforces the positives I see in them and helps me see the negatives in a different light. But reading your blog today reminded me I need to do it more often. May God bless you and strengthen you in your good work.

    • GodCenteredMom

      You are so sweet. So thankful God is bigger than me. Words I thought were selfish He used to help give you hope and perspective. very very thankful. Praying God will, in His grace, help us to stay centered in Him so we can find the grace & love we need to mother well. blessings!

  2. Kristen Botts

    I love reading your blog! I stumbled across it from a friend several months ago and always find it so encouraging! You definitely have a talent!! I also love reading about the boys and all of their distinct personalities – what a great post. And boy are my kids different! (Loved the part about growing out of the difficult/stubborn stage! I have to remember that) I think I’ve had just about every boy in the nursery at church and its fun to see them all growing! Great work on the book… I can’t wait to read it! 🙂

    Kristen Botts

    ps. We miss the young family grow group and are hoping Cooper can last through 2 services soon! He’s just still not a fan of the nursery!

    • GodCenteredMom

      Thank you Kristen for your sweet words of encouragement! Yes, it’s nice now having the 3rd boy going through this stage and remembering they do grow out of it. So I handle it with a little more patience than I did with the other two (poor first kids…the guinea pigs!). Thank you for loving on our boys in the nursery. Oh I remember those days of staying in the nursery two services being a challenge. Be blessed friend!!

  3. Julie@comehaveapeace

    Thanks for lunch 😉 I had a great time! But I had Diet Dr. Pepper. Loved hearing about the boys!!! n my life …? Realizing I have but 7 months left with my daughter in the house before she leaves us for COLLEGE! Wow, that will change the way you view your days. So somewhere in that mix, I’m trying to finish an Ebook … but I MUST GET IT DONE. Been working on it for over a year! I’m taking January to do some nice, slow inventory between me and the Lord. It’s been good. A little brutal at times, but good.

    Blessings to you in your scooter chasing, 4digit counting, hairy pet shopping, dishwasher standing beautiful day!

    • GodCenteredMom

      you rock julie!! As I sip my late afternoon diet dr pepper (like to spread out my caffeine…coffee for breakfast, iced tea for lunch…). Can’t imagine the idea of 7 months until the nest empties. Praying for sweet memories with your daughter but also great bonding time for you & your husband as you prepare for jumping in to a new season of marriage. Also prayers for your eBook. May God fill you with His word. I’ve learned in the publishing world…books take a LONG time. I signed an agent contract back in April and I still don’t have my proposal done (my fault…not his). Then there is the publishing contract and the year or less to write the book and another 6 months to a year before it’s released. I’ve enjoyed taking my time as God as revealed an even deeper level of His message I had missed previously. So enjoy the slowness. love!!!

  4. Fawn Weaver

    I love Julie’s comment! Yes, I think we’re all pretty cheap lunch dates :). I can totally see Bill loving your chapters because they’re raw, real and full of God’s heart. Can’t wait to hear more about the book. Are you finished with the proposal stage and on to the writing of the full manuscript? Fun times!

    • GodCenteredMom

      You are such an encourager Fawn!!! Was just sharing your wonderfulness with my mentor today. I’m actually still in the proposal stage. Very very far from a manuscript. You are my hero! Baby steps, right?

  5. Ashley

    Miss you! Love hearing all your updates and seeing what’s going on with those sweet, hilarious boys! Cannot wait to hold the book in my own hands. 🙂 Me? Let’s see….working on replacing my fears with faith this year (didn’t realize just how fearful I was about so many things and when it came down to it, what little faith I have) Trying to focus on and prioritize the important things and learn to ignore the other voices, lies, distractions…. As always, your blog is a breath of fresh air. 🙂

    • GodCenteredMom

      oh friend! hung out with Leslie and I do miss y’all. God is doing good things in where he has led me but I do miss y’all. We may have grey hair before you get a hard copy book, but all in His perfect timing, right? Love what God is working on in your heart. Read a great post by Kat yesterday about not parenting in fear. Good stuff. Are you going to Momheart? hope to see you there!

  6. Jennie

    laughed SOOOO hard ab the not knowing his name…hilarious!!!

  7. P

    So, holding on to your encouragement about the hard child. Our number 2 is beating me down. She has grown up/matured so much in the last 18 months and I know she will in the next 18 months but ……

  8. Stephanie Rische

    I’m a little slow in catching up, but thanks for this update. I love the pictures that capture your life with the boys, full of life and love and the best kind of messiness. 🙂 Praying for you as you move forward with the book!

    • GodCenteredMom

      Thanks Stephanie! Looking forward to seeing you in less than a month!! (pst…love the phrase “best kind of messiness” ;))

  9. Carol wright

    Was just getting caught up… Which is do fun for me. Keep going chica

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