5 Schedule Sappers and How to Stop Them :: Lysa TerKeurst {Ep. 45}

Oct 27, 2014

Do you feel like the master of your schedule or mastered by your schedule?

I’ve had days this fall where each half hour is so tightly packed that a few minute delay shifts the whole day. In response, my mood is rushed, my tone is harsh and my joy is zapped.

Today’s podcast guest, Lysa TerKeurst, author of the new book, “The Best Yes” has some wisdom to share if you feel the same soul stress as me.

Are you being intentional about what you say ‘yes’ to? Or are you reacting to the needs around you and saying ‘yes’ to more than you can handle?

Are you living the life you feel God desires or are you attempting to do all-the-things to please people around you?

In this episode Lysa and I dig into five schedule sappers, ways we don’t take control of schedule and in exchange lose control of our sanity. She shares practical tips for the mom of little ones, ways to be proactive in living our best lives.

What we talk about:

  • How she is on this journey with us to manage the tension of overwhelmed schedules and underwhelmed souls.
  • The season Lysa is now in and how she would have handed herself this book 10 years ago—how the daily choices are impacted by our best “yeses”.
  • The goal of concentric impact circles of a God Centered Mom, but the reality of strangers get my best and my family getting my worst.
  • Lysa’s confession of being a people pleaser.
  • The tension of having more requests of you than can be done in a day and the power of the words “yes” and “no”.
  • Unrushing my soul can sound good in theory, but hard to implement with a rushed reality.
  • How do we ‘unrush’ when the realities are rushed.
  • Practical ideas for fitting in our best yes with a chaotic four boy schedule.
  • Have to get intentional with the time we have.
  • Definition of “Schedule sapper”: those things that come and sap our schedules, that we dread saying ‘yes’ but feel powerless to say ‘no’.
  • If you allow the thing that feeds your soul to get away from you, you do your family a disservice.
  • Delaying never lets the ‘no’ go down easier.
  • If you get a request and feel a sense of dread, disappoints family/kids, or introduces drama, then you should say ‘no’ right away.
  • Saying ‘yes’ to everything won’t make me wonder woman, but a worn out woman.
  • Overestimate my capacity and underestimate my time.
  • People not projects need to occupy the sacred space of my heart.

“When the motions of my life are rushed, my emotions don’t have to be.”

“How I set my schedule is how I spend my life. How I spend my life is how I spend my soul.”

Connect with Lysa:

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Show Notes:

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  1. Shonda

    I need to read this book! I love your podcasts, Heather, and all the fantastic people that you interview.

    • Heather MacFadyen

      wow! thanks shonda for your sweet encouragement. It is a great book. Been reading it since the interview and am soaking up and applying the truth. Such valuable wisdom to give to those who matter most and say our “best yes”. blessings.

  2. Shonda

    I’m doing Bikini Body Mommy too!! Way to go, Heather!

    I get up early every morning, but I have so many things I want to do before the kids get up and they often get up when I’m not ready (ie. haven’t taken a shower). Since I homeschool I’m home with these little ones (3 and 5) all day and I try to squeeze in stuff I need to do. I’m really trying to focus on my marriage because I feel like the kids have just sapped all that I am as a wife and I only feel like mom. I’m still trying to figure out what my best priorities are and how to pursue those daily. It’s tough.

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