Imagine you see smoke coming out of the hood of your minivan. Then just seven minutes later from a safe distance you and your kids watch that van become engulfed in flames. Tragic and terrifying.
But that smoke served as a warning. The van was not ‘fine’. And by heeding that warning, lives were saved.
What about when our emotions give us warning signs? Recurring anxiety or anger or shame. Do we ignore them and continue to wear the mask of ‘fine’? Or do we reach out to someone and accept help?
Today’s guest, Rachel Martin (founder of FindingJoy.net), personally understands both of the above scenarios. The van story is hers from a week ago. And the second part. . .
Well, while living the life of a stay-at-home, homeschooling mother of seven children, Rachel hid behind a masked utopia. Not letting anyone see the truth of what was going on in her home. Then four years ago Rachel became a single mom, solely responsible to provide for her children. The mask was removed.
You are worth more than ‘I’m fine.’ ‘I’m fine’ is a lie. -Rachel Martin
For years Rachel has written encouraging words to moms, helping us find joy in the hardest places. She writes about real life and noticing treasured moments. If you’re looking for a “mom boost” definitely check out some the posts I’ve linked below. You won’t be disappointed.
AND (so fun) we get a chance to rally around Rachel and help her purchase a new car! Check out the GoFundMe account her friend set up (she did NOT ask me to promote this. . .I believe having scheduled her to be on the show before the van fire was a “God-incidence”). What a great way for the GCM podcast community to show this consistent mom-encourager a dose of God’s love and encouragement!
What we chat about:
- Did writing about motherhood change now that her oldest children are adults.
- How do you manage the tension of being fully present and keeping a home.
- How Rachel stinks at playing with her kids.
- The masked utopia Rachel created for years as a stay-at-home/homeschool mom.
- The transition to being a working single mom of 7.
- The fear that kept Rachel from taking the mask off.
- Not letting emotions drive the bus.
- The story of Rachel’s mini-van blowing up and how God protect her family.
- How we ignore warning signs in our life and don’t accept help.
- The FLASH MOB of love we can show to Rachel. . .helping her buy a new van!!
Connect with Rachel:
Links Mentioned:
- “Why Being a Mom is Enough”
- “Just Do the Dishes. Please. The Kids Will Be Fine.”
- “the truth about divorce”
- “the harvest years of mothering”
- “10 Things Single Moms Want Their Married Friends To Know”
- Seat belt cutter key chain**
- Chris Brogan — “If you say should, you mean won’t”
- “Breaking Free” by Beth Moore**
- Go Fund Me to get a new van for Rachel’s family
**Amazon Affiliate Link
How to listen to the podcast:
1.Listen on the blog. Click through to GodCenteredMom.com and click the play button at the beginning of this post.
2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store, there is also one called Downcast. It allows you to search for shows, subscribe to them and even speed up the audio. If you don’t have an iDevice, you can listen via Stitcher.
3. Subscribe to the Podcast – access the podcast in iTunes (Click here to access via iTunes). You can also search for it on your smartphone app (like the ones listed above) and subscribe.
Thank you for doing this interview. This is my life! I went from a stay at home mom , homeschooling my kids to a divorced single mom . I cant tell what this meant hear this story. I have 5 kids and left everything to start over . God has provided for us in amazing ways but It has been a rough road.. Listening to Rachael’s story has given me encouragement to continue in this journey. It has not been easy but God is teaching me so many things. I hope that I may somehow encourage others who have to walk this path. Thank You!! Thank You !! for doing this interview and not being judgmental of us in this situation.